Becoming A Parent With No Children

Perhaps you have children of your own for some years now or you are experiencing parenthood for the first time since last month. Whichever the situation may be, becoming a parent of a child is a natural process you have been preparing yourself to experience probably throughout your life. But becoming the parent of your own parents is in most cases something nobody has ever shown you how is done, or what it really entails. It is evident that you will need courage. You will need courage to accept that your parents are mortal human beings who do get old, regardless if they have been opposing aging or not. You will need courage to enter the living-room one day and realize that the people who have been advising you all your life now need your advice and constant attention. Most importantly, you will courage and all the psychological strength you have to be able to go through the process of unwillingly exchanging roles with your parents and watch them become the children in this relationship. Giving up control is never easy; imagine having to take control because life leaves you no other choice. As scary and stressful as it might seem to someone, who has not yet become a parent, taking the role of a parent with no children is a lesson that life teaches you not out of spite, but as a natural process to understand why it is vital for you to value your parents' efforts and commitment. Keep in mind that experiencing life with your parents does not end because they cannot support themselves as well as they once did. This new and strange situation might even open up some possibilities for you to see through your own eyes what they have been so eager to teach you over the years; the lesson of being responsible and love unconditionally. Nobody claims that it is easy to see your parents reach a stage that it is vital for them to be always under your wings. But it can be a life-changing experience if you are willing and able to invest time and effort to make it one. Taking trips together, fulfilling their simple everyday wishes, protect and cherish them can all help you attain another stage in the parent-child relationship you once knew how to respond to. Our advice is not to go through this process alone. Talk to your friends, seek advice from experts, join a group of people and share experiences, invite people over and let them be part of this tremendous change in your life. Responding to this role is something you fear now but will be glad you had the courage to do later. Give as much as you can and always hope for the best. Life is a cycle of energy that gets transmitted to those who remain open to receive it.

Last Updated ( Tuesday, 01 August 2006 )